I don’t need to tell you that separation and/or divorce can be tough on the kids too. Question is, how do you deal with it?
We held it together for quite a while, even after moving house and changing jobs. But eventually, at some point, things started getting tougher. And not just for me. My son was finding it harder to communicate, with me and with his dad. At one point he would not visit his dad, which created a whole new lot of issues.
I didn’t know how to deal with it other than be there for cuddles and when he came back from his dad crying. It was hard on his dad too as it seemed he could not do anything right, no matter how hard he tried.
Eventually we went to family counselling, and that is a saga that is not quite over yet… My wallet still remembers the cost as well!
But things have settled down, especially as my son is now old enough to speak out. But I wish there had been an online service for children: it’s such a natural space for them to be in these days, and to communicate in. It really makes sense to provide them with such a program.
And at last there is! The BRAVE program, created by universities and with funding from beyondblue, was 13 years in the making: it’s a free, online self-help course for young people and their parents to get support from home.
The program has been proven to help prevent and treat anxiety in young people aged between 8 and 17: the fun, interactive program uses Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) techniques and, includes up to 10 sessions for kids or teens.
Parents can undertake a separate program to learn how to help.
[Original content adapted from http://www.parenthub.com.au/news/parenting-news-news/free-online-program-proven-children-anxiety/]
We cannot start over, but we can begin now, and make a new ending.